A Journey of Bold Choices and New Insights 

In less than a week, I found myself in situations where I didn’t stop to consider the values I hold so dearly. Oh boy… The most surprising part? I don’t feel too regretful about my actions and inactions.

Yes, I made some of the craziest and riskiest decisions—like hopping into a vehicle and heading to someone’s house. Not just anyone, but someone I had met online through a friend. After only two days of chatting, it felt like we had known each other for much longer. The vibe, the flow—it was all so natural. He was saying all the right things, and trust me, this girl was melting! (smiley emoji)  He was cute, we vibed, but—yeah, it all happened in less than a week. I know I’m stressing that point, but it was completely new for me.

Typically, I’d talk to potential boyfriends for 4-6 months before meeting up, especially at their house, not just on a date. But this time? I took the plunge.

I’m back home now, and honestly, it was fun. He didn’t have to do much; he was just so himself. He made me feel completely comfortable. We ate sitting on the floor, despite his fully furnished 6-bedroom apartment. We cooked together, Netflix and chilled (yes, cuddling included). There were so many things I had to learn and unlearn in such a short space of time, but I adjusted perfectly.

We also had the serious conversations we both wanted. Even before meeting in person, he was already challenging me to think like the boss chic I should be—helping me recognize strengths I never thought of monetizing. It was impressive, and for a moment, I was full of confidence that he could be the one. But hold up, girl, let’s not get ahead of ourselves. I don’t know what the future holds, but I’m enjoying the ride and, more importantly, learning along the way.

After getting home, I had some quiet time, and it felt like the message was just for me. As a Christian, I realized I’ve become a bit callous and lost some sensitivity to sin. Maybe I was comfortable because we had discussed being in a relationship, and I had silently accepted. I’ve always justified sex in a relationship as my standard, but perhaps I’ve been selective with what I considered sin.

I often think, “If I avoid major sins like adultery, homosexuality, stealing, or murder, I’m doing fine.” But today, I asked myself about those less glaring sins: pride, laziness, gluttony, gossip, slander, and indifference to the needy. These sins might not shock us, but they are also forbidden by God.

I’m not saying I’m going to stop kissing, cuddling, or even making love with my partner. What I am saying is no one is beyond the reach of God’s forgiveness. Although we don’t deserve anything but punishment for our sins, God’s arms remain outstretched, offering salvation and forgiveness if we truly repent. He knows everything about us, even the sins we try to hide or those we haven’t yet committed. The only effective way to deal with our sins is to confess them and ask God for help in overcoming them.

And just as I seek forgiveness when I slip, I’m learning not to judge others harshly. When someone confides in you about their sin, listen, but most importantly, say a prayer for them with love, wanting the very best for them.( love and prayer emoji)

With Love,

Rammie.